If somebody states that they need time alone that is different than just walking away and not hearing from them for days or weeks on end. So don’t shy away from asking for love. These people are monsters. If you continue to use this site we will assume that you are happy with it. Narcissists seem to get a kick out of hurting those who actually love them and have genuine feelings for them. The more time you give yourself the clearer the situation becomes. And remember this, “the silent treatment can often be a silent treat.”. Narcissism is a personality disorder that stems from a persons psyche. The next time a narcissist, or ANYONE, gives you the silent treatment, GO ALONG WITH IT. You’re getting the silent treatment again,  a lovely part of the discard phase that everyone who’s ever been in a narcissist’s path can recall. I’m finding it hard to imagine “leaving” my son or “letting him go”.

You don’t need to justify yourself to the narcissist. The first time he called me worthless….I remember what I was wearing, where I was at, the song that was playing on the RADIO. You might verbalize your dislike of their choice and explain how hurtful it is, but they always find a way to insert themselves back into your life with barely a hitch.
My first dog, my best friend of 15 years passed away soon after I met him. An unvarnished look at how to deal with the silent treatment, warts and all.

narcissists and the silent treatment in this video. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. These recommendations might be helpful if you’re dealing with a normal person, but the major flaw here is that normal people don’t use the silent treatment on a regular basis, and trying to implement these steps with a narcissist is downright laughable because they will never work. In fact, this need can be so strong, it can override the needs of food and safety. He texted many times and I ignored it. It is important that you ask people for help when you need it. These past 3 years have been hell.

There is one way to truly get rid of a narcissist. Part of healing means you begin to reclaim the pieces of you that you sold off to appease the narcissist. Learn how to respond to it and when it becomes abusive. As empathetic and humble people we fear being perceived as boastful and often deny ourselves the values of self-promotion and community praise. Let’s break it down. He was using my AC which costs a lot and it was bugging me. I can’t thank you enough for guiding me through the most heartbreaking, lonely and dissociating experience of my life. It’s a human tragedy that they get away with this and it’s indicative of the general incompetence and denial in society at large; but it’s funny because they’re so stupid; you can only walk away you have no choice. Someone who will co-exist with you in the same house while literally ignoring you? Two days later we are having coffee at a quaint little shop and he comments about one of my friends being “His type of woman”. I am free and I had the last word and it bruised him badly. They are wounded souls. - Kim Saeed: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program, Free Training – 7 Proven Strategies to Defeat Narcissistic Abuse. i make him believe i have many friends to talk to and that i am fine and that i wish he is happy with whatever he does in the silent phases. I would have imagined months earlier that a break up would have been devastating, but in that moment of clarity I knew I had not discarded anything, but that I had in fact, gained myself instead. Just to be clear, the silent treatment is a manipulation tactic where a toxic narcissist will stop talking to you for days, hours, weeks or even months in order to punish you for some perceived slight. Few days back that’s like 9days he went on the silent treatment after complaining that I was the cause of all the wrong things in his life and without caring if I have to visit the hospital he compares me to his great grandmother who never new antenantal and gave birth healthy. What if that goes on for days?

But in real life, things don’t always work ideally and people sometimes need to live with narcissists – so let’s dig into this.

Even if we know, without a doubt, that the narcissist was in the wrong, we take on the responsibility for their going silent on us. This makes them feel like a GOD (or GODDESS), especially if you have a new partner in your life.
Instead of direct aggression, the silent treatment is passive aggressive. Yes! I usually joke about my inability to pick a restaurant, a color of lipstick, career, etc. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.

– thank you….. “Adult son”. You can do it✨ .

However, once you’ve told them how you’re having a hard time and can’t get motivated to do anything, they’ll hang up with a smirk on their face because 1) they obliterated any progress you may have made and, 2) they know they’ll have an easy in once they decide the new supply needs a good ghosting of their own. So stop it. He found himself in the arms of another female that he’d been seeing before he even left. Anyway, he somehow convinced me he was so sorry…blah blah. But once you show them you are 100% okay with no attention, they will switch their tune-up. If you’re staying in the relationship because you have no choice, you can play the game. How can you effectively navigate the perilous silent treatment waters? Now, you might wonder which button they’re trying to push when they just go silent, right? You won’t be able to be friends until the two of you have both moved on and recovered from the trauma of the relationship. Every time. The silent treatment, on the other hand, is destructive, indefinite, contemptuous, unilateral, and meant to alleviate the abuser’s sense of responsibility and allocate all the blame onto the victim. The silent treatment is meant to disintegrate your worth in the eyes of the narcissist. I am on my fourth silent treatment/discard now. In order to end the cycle of narcissists taking advantage of you, you have to accept that you cannot force someone to suddenly love you. How to Make a Narcissist Miserable: 12 Things They Hate, How to Deal with a Narcissist While Stuck Together in Quarantine, 11 Mandatory Rules for Dealing With a Narcissist. I texted, like an idiot to find out what just happened. I also know how hard it can be to break free of a narcissist once you make the decision to improve your life. Once you realize you don’t need a jerk anymore, you can do anything! I’m excited to share with you the psychological tools I and thousands of others have used to heal from narcissistic abuse. It is his hope that in enacting this silent narcissistic rage against you, he will force you into submission and into being the good little narcissistic supply he needs. Once the cycle of abuse has begun there is virtually no way to escape it without terminating the relationship because the narcissist has already decided that your boundaries are an insult to them. In fact, don’t post anything on your social media about their being gone. How do you deal with living with a narcissist who is giving you the silent treatment? thank you , I have been going through this behavior for a long time .it took me 4 years to really get it . That is the difference. You’re not going to leave them alone and vulnerable, are you? Similarly, anybody may find themselves a victim. he actually tried to get a breast cancer survivor that had just gone through a double mastectomy to move from another state and I found out about that too and contacted her. During this silent treatment I would be having morning sickness and no help, no food, water or anything as he left the house came back N would nt even eat when I got money but go out and buy food for himself. I don’t think I will ever be involved with another man again as long as I live. In fact, they might cause the narcissist to lash out even harder!

The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. Narcissists are inherently difficult to deal with.